Meet Jess Minckley
Hi, I’m Jess (they/them)
I’m a licensed mental health counselor in 3 states and a Registered Art Therapist (ATR) nationwide. I am also a PhD student studying Art Therapy at Dominican University of California. I live in Los Angeles.
I hold a master’s in Applied Psychology from Antioch University Seattle, where I studied Clinical Mental Health Counseling with a specialization in Creative Arts Therapies. I earned certificates of Adlerian study and Adlerian psychotherapy from the North American Society of Adlerian Psychology. I also have a bachelor’s and a master’s degree in Fine Art, which I use to be an educator- 22 years and counting.
Before becoming a therapist I was a therapy client for a long time. During my youth, I made art as a way to cope. Once I learned about art therapy, I already knew it worked because I’d done it with myself! As a teacher, I encountered my students healing through art & our relationship. I believe all people are creative and artistic, even if they have been discouraged since they were very small.
My research has been on: Chronic Illness & Belongingness, Sexual Harm in the Trans/Gender Diverse community, and Art Therapy with people on the Ace/Aro spectrum. I also write and lecture about the connection between creativity and happiness, and am frequently contacted about the education of art therapists. I’m happy to speak to you if you’re interested in becoming an art therapist!
I’m a “spoonie” interested in the link between traumatic relational stress & lowered immune system function. The subsequent increase in inflammatory and disease responses are real. Spoonies have very unique challenges to feeling belonging and inclusion.
I spent many years as a member of various 12-step peer support communities coming to understand the underlying causes behind adult addictive behaviors. I believe that big T and little t traumas are usually part of the recipe. There is a solution. However, if you have been harmed by Alcoholics Anonymous, please reach out for support, as these models can be traumatizing for some people.
I also have a passion for supporting people recovering from the effects of complex relational abuse. These experiences often manifest in codependency which usually comes out sideways- in adult romantic relationships, friendships, and at work- through traits like perfectionism, people pleasing, and anxiety. This is where you get concepts like boundaries work, consent education, reparenting, finding embodied safety, and working with the nervous system.
I have been blessed with a lot of experience counseling men, in particular trans men. I also really enjoy supporting parents or caregivers of trans and/or queer kids as they navigate their inner process in therapy so their kids don’t have to witness it, which can be confusing and incredibly painful for kids.
Some people say that kids are the future, I think parents hold the keys to changing the world. I love the Adlerian teachings on working with kids & teens and am always so excited when I get to share it with parents. A lot of parents will happily spend their money on their kid’s therapy. Rarely do they realize that it’s a whole-family affair that requires they “do their work” too. You can do it. There is a pot of gold at the end of this rainbow!
My Style & Approaches
What you will notice about me is that I love to laugh, I can articulate things clearly, and I’m not afraid to interrupt or challenge people. I’m also very persony, so I talk about appropriate things about myself in therapy, such as telling the truth when someone asks “how are you?”.
This is called a Feminist approach: we are equals in our humanness; I’m no guru. The Fellow Traveler means I’m growing and changing just like you. I believe that if our hurts were created in-relationship, the solution has to be created in-relationship too. We will establish a real relationship. Therapist-client relationships are truly unique. This is why self-help has limits and why peer support is so powerful.
Art-making
Humanist
Contemplative
Mindfulness Meditation
Somatic Therapy
Attachment Theory
Feminist Theory
Cultural Humility
Polyvagal Theory
What I am…
I’m a “real” talker, down to Earth + hot takes
Anticapitalist leftist
Strengths-based, positive psychology, non-pathologizing
Frank. I can call people on their crap without judgment.
Insight-oriented
Goofy and funny. My clients and I like to laugh and make fun of ourselves sometimes, even in the darkest times
Likes to take things a bit deeper. Is capable of holding many layers of complexity and conceptualizing the connections- and the way forward
A visual thinker (lots of stories and images in how I speak)
Very hard to surprise with regard to human behavior
The one protocol I do use is EMDR (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing). This can also be done with art-making.
I trust the evidence called “common factors”. It says across dozens of various therapy models, the only thing that was consistent in helping people: our relationship is the solution. This is called Humanistic or Person-Centered.
I look into your formative experiences to find answers to today’s struggles. Spoiler alert- you solve problems using your already existing awesomeness! If you don’t want to talk about your past, we can still work with it nonverbally sometimes.
I try to see into the whole picture: what you eat, how you sleep, what medication you take, your sex life/desires, hobbies, work, family, self-image, internalized oppression, physical health, your community, existential issues, and how much you exercise.
I do write Gender-Affirming surgery letters to surgeons provided we do a formal interview.
What I’m not…
Not a ma’am, girl, lady, or woman- just a person
I’m not a coach, so if you’re looking to solve targeted, logistical problems through 6 easy steps, I’m not it.
If you’re not ready to [or ready to contemplate how to] face your own dragons and take steps toward accountability, I am not your best therapist
If you don’t want to look at the past, I won’t be capable of helping you.
I am vehemently against ABA (applied behavioral analysis) and conversion therapy for children & teens
If you need support such as executive functioning, time management, or mental roadblocks, try to find an ADHD coach.
I’m not the best therapist out there for people who want solely to tackle their ADHD symptoms. I have many clients with ADHD (some who know they have it when they start, some find out) but we are dealing with holistic issues which also touch upon trauma, relationships, and the Self too.
Symptom management can be part of the treatment for this or I can refer you to a special ADHD adjunctive service, such as a coach, psychometrist, or psychiatric provider.
I don’t often give you a list of tasks to accomplish like homework (unless you want it). People don’t do their homework. Let’s not create another thing to feel ashamed about.
I don’t use workbooks or worksheets. You can do those on your own time- it’s much cheaper than therapy. Most people come to therapy after self-help has not yielded the results they have hoped for.
I don’t do manualized treatments like CPT (cognitive processing therapy), TRE (trauma release exercises), Somatic Experiencing, etc. for the treatment of trauma except EMDR, with which I take ethical creative license. While I can offer you various interventions from these modalities, I see things as more organic, intuitive, holistic and relational. This means we take a multi-pronged approach, tossing what doesn’t work for Y.O.U.
I’m not strictly EBP (evidence-based practices) because there are not enough clinical trials for approaches such as art therapy and EMDR yet…
My CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) is folded into the rest of my work, through Adlerian Psychology.
I am an autodidact about ERP (exposure & response prevention) & I-CBT (Inference-Based Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) for Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD). These modalities do not have certifications.
I do not administer the kind of Autism assessments that often serve accommodations. These typically have to be done by doctoral-level psychometricists.
I do not write emotional support animal (ESA) letters as I am not trained in the legalities.
I cannot promise I will not make MiStAkEs, especially as it pertains to memory. I have a disability that demands that we both be flexible when mistakes happen. I’m also just a human being and I’d like to be given a little grace.
Image of bilateral drawing from the Sensorimotor Institute
I make encouraging recommendations for you to pursue supplemental services and therapies that are outside of my scope of practice but align with your personal belief systems. Take what you like and leave the rest.
These include but are not limited to:
Registered nutritionists & dieticians (RDNs). This does not mean weight loss. I will most likely not be useful to you if weight loss is a therapy goal, as I am fat-positive, body-inclusive, and HAES: health at any size. I believe in your bodily autonomy, and this is a grey area for me regarding bias.
Western medical doctors: Primary care/Internal Medicine, Specialists such as Immunologists, Gynecologists/Reproductive Healthcare professionals, Gastrointestinal doctors, Rheumatologists, Cardiologists, Gender-Affirming Care specialists, blood labs, CAT scans and MRIs, Dermatologists & Dentists (you can die from untreated dental issues!)
Eastern medicine & Naturopathy, such as herbal and mineral supplements, acupuncture, and Ayurveda. Massage, physical therapy, cranio-sacral practitioners
Psychiatric medication providers (PMHNPs, PAs, & doctors)
Reiki, dance, chanting, hypnosis
Religion (if applicable) & the cosmological/spiritual realm, psychics
Psychometric assessments & testing
Disability: Accommodations, SSI/SSDI, FMLA (although, I cannot write letters for this as I am not a doctoral-level trained clinician or a medical doctor).
Unemployment insurance
Veteran’s benefits
ADHD coaches
COVID testing & immunizations